I want to take a moment to talk about an idea that seems to be continually coming up lately in my life. The idea of being perfect in our lives. I think this concept is especially prevalent for us young adults who are finishing school, starting careers, families, whatever it is. The funny thing is that this isn’t the first time that we have heard about this idea of perfectionism.
We are taught from a very young age about the idea of perfection. This idea that if we don’t strive for perfection in EVERYTHING, we do that we will fall short in this life, that we will achieve nothing. This belief is bullshit.
Who are we as humans, as societies to define what is perfect, and what is not? If you were to look up the definition of perfect, it states, “in having all the required or desirable elements, qualities, or characteristics as good as it is possible to be.”
Notice the word possible and desirable in the definition. The definition itself questions that perfectionism is not always attainable for living creatures such as ourselves. It is not in our nature to be or define perfectionism.
Each person is uniquely different. Body types, sex, strengths, weaknesses, culture, you name it. There is so much to one person that there can be no definitive definition of perfect. Hollywood will tell you otherwise and give you an image to strive for. That isn’t perfection, and not everyone can aim for that image, nor should they.
Where am I going with this rant? Instead of striving for a false ideal we should strive for our better selves; to be happy with who we are and what we are trying to be. We aren’t always going to be satisfied with where we are. We are going to have those dark days where we feel like utter failures, that we are stuck in a neverending rut. Guess what? There is absolutely nothing wrong with that!! Sometimes it takes a setback for us to learn and maybe take a step back before jumping back into the fray of life. As long as you keep on trying. Don’t look at other people and compare yourself. You are not fighting for the same achievements in life.
Ever since I graduated high school, I struggled with my university studies and just finding a purpose in life. We all go through this at some point, and it is tough. I was told that I have to get a degree to succeed, that I have to get perfect grades to succeed in university. I am not stupid by any means, but I felt like I wasn’t getting the education that I wanted or needed and so I didn’t feel like putting in the energy towards my schooling. Almost five years later and after spending thousands of dollars trying to achieve something that I never really had a heart in. I gave up. I didn’t quit, but I took my time and energy to find ways to succeed in what I want to do without getting a degree. We can achieve whatever we want to, but like the concept of perfectionism the world tells us that we cannot succeed without a degree. For many occupations you cannot succeed without a degree, but for me I can.
So throw away that concept of perfectionism, you aren’t’ going to need it anytime soon. Whatever it is you want to go after in life, go after it in anyway that you can. Don’t worry about doing it correctly or like anyone else. You are your own person, and it is your life to live.