It is safe to say that most of us have thought about this many times during our lifetime’s, sometimes within months or even days of each other. We are told that we will find out who we are during our high school and college years. We will know where we want to go with our lives and find our true selves. I don’t know about the rest of you, but I feel like a toddler trying to learn how to talk. I have no idea who I am or where I want to go in life.
Besides, the question is loaded. There are so many interpretations that sometimes I think we get overwhelmed. You take hundreds of quizzes on which personality type you are, who your best match with, what your best career choice is. How are we supposed to know who we are when there are so many directions to go in?
I think our struggle isn’t in trying to find who we are but the pressure that is put on us to have ourselves figured out by the time we graduate college, and for a girl like me living in Utah being surrounded by my Mormon culture, it is a little overwhelming. I know I am not the only one out there that feels this way. People want you to go out on missions, get married, start a family right off the bat. The list could go on and on, and as I get closer to my mid-twenties the pressure increases.
So, how do we alleviate this pressure and actually focus on the things we want to without being attacked or be able to find who we are without all that pressure? The sad truth is that there is no way to get away from the pressure. The answer, however, is simple. We ignore it. I know, it sounds too simple, but it is the truth. How we find ourselves and at what time we find it is up to us not anyone else. The funny thing is that we will slowly change over the years and as long as we are happy with who we are in that moment then we shouldn’t stress about who we are going to be in the future. You don’t know who that you will be in the future. You can have an idea as you work towards those things you want in life, but you will never honestly know who you are.
You can do WHATEVER you want and be WHOMEVER. The choice is yours, not the silly little quizzes that you take or what people tell you. If you’re going to be the next American novelist or the first person to Mars, then you make that happen. You get to choose who YOU want to be. It is up to you to make that happen. Are there going to be obstacles in your way as you move towards who you want to be? You bet your ass there is going to be, but those obstacles will help you grow and learn as an individual. You will slowly become the person YOU want to be, and with it, you will learn who you are. It takes time, but it is well worth it in the end.