Confidence Mask

In my New Years post, I talked about how I am going to work on my confidence. It is sad to think that too many of us hide under what I like to call the “confidence mask.” It is the mask that we put on for people to show that we are confident when we really aren’t. We all wear masks to hide who we truly are at some point in our lives, but I think the “confidence mask” is the biggest one.
Can I  tell you guys a secret? I wear my “confidence mask” way too much, it is like wearing make up every day. There are moments when my mask is a part of my real self-confidence but more times then not I hide behind that mask. Now I could give a million excuses as to why I am not confident, but the reality of it is, I am just not that confident in myself, and I want to change that.
One of my biggest struggles with being confident is in my writing. I have never felt confident in sharing my writing, but this year I decided that I wanted to have my writing shared whether people liked it or cared for it. I want to be confident in who I am as a writer, and that means being willing to share my writing with the world.
What are some things that you guys aren’t confident about that you hide behind a mask for? I know for girls there can be a million things that we hide behind because we want to be that perfect girl that the world expects us to be. Don’t be afraid to be who you are! You are who you are, and there are people just like you out there, but if you hide your true self, you are never going to know or connect with those people.

IMG_0869This is an extreme example but here is a picture from this past Halloween after I took off half of the makeup off of my face. The difference between my face and the makeup still on my face is kind of frightening, but it’s a perfect example of how much we sometimes hide behind masks.

 

Everyone wants to get to know the real you not the person you are behind the mask. So if there is anything worth working on this year, it is to be confident in yourself. Take pictures of yourself every day and find something beautiful about yourself. Find those people in your life that make you feel confident, whatever it is take off the mask and be confident in who you are because you are an incredible human being.

 

2018 New Year, New You​

Happy New Year everyone!!
 As sad as it sounds, nothing says Happy New Year like empty promises to keep the resolutions that we made or to reflect on the previous year, am I    right? However, I  vote that we do things a little bit different this year. Instead of focusing on the person

fullsizeoutput_5e9that you weren’t in 2017 or making resolutions you know you aren’t going to keep, I want you to answer one question? Who am I  going to be in 2018?

This sounds like a trick question I know, but I promise it isn’t. We focus so much on the who we should be and try to be a perfect person. Let me tell you, no one is perfect nor were we meant to be.  So, instead of making the long list of things that you are going to do this year that won’t really happen, focus on who you are going to be this year. What are you going to do to make this year the best year for you? That sounds selfish I know, but sometimes we need to focus on ourselves, and if you really think about it, all those resolutions that you plan on making might fall into place on their own as your focus on being your best self.
For some of us, we aren’t confident enough in who we are. We look down on ourselves or don’t give ourselves enough credit for our talents. That’s my goal this year is to be confident in who I  am and the talents that I  have. I  am a writer, and I have been pushing that on the backburner for way too long, so for my 2018, I am going to make my writing my primary focus. Writing for me is like coffee, if I don’t get it, I don’t function. 2017 was a year of focusing on things that didn’t make me happy. As a result, I stressed myself out for nothing, and mostly because I  wasn’t writing.
The problem isn’t in making a million resolutions, it’s in the fact that we ask for validation from everyone else to be a better person or to try to be a better person. Let me tell you something right now. NO ONE ELSE’S OPINION MATTERS! Your opinion is the only one that you should care about. If you want to change then you do it for yourself; not for your family, not for your friends, hell not even for your dog. CHANGE FOR YOU. You are the only person that matters when it comes to change.
In this upcoming year ask yourself who are you going to be? Who do I want to be that I wasn’t in 2017? Before you know it, you will be making changes that you have wanted all along. Again Happy New Year and all best wishes on everyone’s new adventures!
Until next time,
KennKenn
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